The Power of Being Present, Showing Up in Relationships & Why Self-Love Can Be Tough Love with Marian Mellen

Ep. 45 – The Power of Being Present, Showing Up in Relationships & Why Self-Love Can Be Tough Love

This episode is like that deep soul filled conversation you have with a close friend, except Marian and I had never met. We dive right into so many amazing rich topics about personal growth and relationships. I will warn you there is some deep stuff in here. I really loved this episode because I actually only asked 2 of my prepared questions and the rest of the time we just riffed and dove deeper.

I loved where this conversation went and for anyone who is passionate about showing up as the full version of themselves, I know you’ll love it too! This is a good one to listen to after you’ve done some yoga or are on a long walk or chillin’ sipping a glass of wine (or coffee, or kombucha or tea). In fact, after we got off of the call I thought to myself that Marian is like a warm herbal tea for your soul. I don’t even really know what that means but it definitely felt real!

On this Episode We Talk About:

• How Marian starts her morning
• What do you do when you’re under a deadline but want to honor your body when it’s stressed
• How Marian got started with meditation and how she reframed it to just “breathing”
• Being still and what meditation is and isn’t
• What it means to surrender in this moment without the preference on the moment – allowing versus struggling
• Can I surrender to a moment without labeling the pain as something good or bad?
• How we can’t really be happy until we embrace pain without judgment of it
• How our culture has put happiness on a pedestal (and it makes us miserable)
• Appreciating what each kind of emotion provides in our life
• Control – why it’s an illusion
• How we can treat ourselves and others to the best of our ability, without overcompensating and trying to control an outcome
• Expectations – how they create a false reality in the future and block us from accepting and embracing what is
• Why sometimes self-love has to be tough love
• How relationships can be mirrors for our own “stuff”
• Ask “why am I trying to resist this?”
• Why self-love can be compassionate and disciplined at the same time
• Necessary discomfort and why it can be a good thing – there’s magic on the other side of most discomfort
• Small talk versus deep talk – how to make small talk meaningful
• Navigating how to handle what other people think of you
• Sharing your story versus the stories you’re a part of – how do we share our relationships online
• We discuss how we’re working on people pleasing

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